Some men mean well, but a few of their actions in bed will hurt more than help her achieve the pleasure she seeks.
If she takes off her clothes for you, it is because she expects that you will please and satisfy her. Some men mean well, but a few of their actions in bed will hurt more than help her achieve the pleasure she seeks.
If you are doing one or more of these below, then you should know it’s time to change tactics.
1. Not enough foreplay
Sure, Quickies are awesome, but if you truly want her to achieve the highest pleasure peak, then you must make more effort during foreplay. It takes a bit longer for women to get aroused than it does for men. So, take your time. Kiss, touch and tease her the ways she likes. There are also perks for you too. Getting very aroused before sex and holding off for a few minutes before penetration can make things so much more intense when you actually begin.
2. Quiet Sex
Most men believe keeping mute during sex is manly or macho, actually, it can be very uncomfortable. Just as you want your woman to react if she is enjoying you, she also needs to know she is pleasing you too. If moaning is not your thing, simply letting her know through dirty talk or complimentary words that she is hitting the spot can be a great morale booster. Knowing she is pleasing you will encourage her to do more to please you. Besides, no woman wants to be the only one writhing and moaning in a quiet room. This can get pretty awkward.
Unless she has explicitly told you that the enjoys your teeth on her during sex, suddenly biting her Nipples, or Vagina can be a turn off. When it comes to woman, it is better to err on the side of gentility. Women, naturally, do not positively react to rough touch. Her body is extremely sensitive that the gentlest touch can set her off, but a harder touch will totally ruin the mood. So, keep your teeth out off the love play.
4. Stopping when she says, ‘don’t stop’
If you happen to be an oral sex pro, then you should know to listen to your woman’s body and her touch. The Vagina can be complicated depending on the woman, but if you do hit the spot and she lets you know you have, you absolutely must keep doing what you are doing until she cums. This is not the time to change moves or be distracted.
5. Pushing her head down for a blow job
She knows you enjoy getting head, but to get a good blow job, you must encourage her to do it because she wants to. One terrible habit men have is pushing a woman’s head down for a BJ when it is obvious she is resisting. If you make her, she will only force herself through the process, and this will not put her in the best mindset to relax and enjoy sex.
6. Cumming on her face
Sure, it looks good in Porn, but remember that the actresses actually pay to have cum all over them. Do not automatically assume she would like it. Not all women want to have to clean up their man’s jizz from their bodies. If she has not explicitly said she likes this, or you have never had a conversation about it, don’t blow your load on her.
7. Keeping tabs on her orgasms
You might mean well and want your woman to orgasms during sex, but constantly asking her if she has cum, or why she has not cum, will make it more likely that she will not cum. For her to achieve orgasms, she needs to relax and let go. Interviewing her through the process will either cause her to fake an orgasms to make you keep quiet, or she might lose her arousal.
8. Going hard and fast
Yes, it might feel great for you when you thrust in and out, hard and fast during sex, but it is probably doing nothing for her. Thrusting very hard as you ride her can do more harm than good on her end. Your Penis is unlikely to reach her G-spot or stimulate her clitoris this way. Alternate slow grind and different angles so you are sure you are pleasing her.