When in a relationship, it is natural to feel a little jealous at times, especially when you have strong feelings for your partner. Jealousy isn’t always a sign of insecurity or weakness, it could also be an expression of love.
However, it can confuse anyone into believing that the relationship is threatened even if that’s not actually the case.
But what to do when this jealousy becomes more frequent and intense and even overwhelming?
Below are 7 ways to handle jealousy in your relationship
1. Don’t Act On Your Feelings
It is hard not to act the way you are feeling. The feeling of jealousy or any other feelings is not the problem, the real trouble starts when you start acting on that jealousy and let it consume you. You can feel the feeling, but do not have to act on it.
Remember that your better half is a human being that is actively interacting with the world around him/her. That world contains people of gender that they sexually prefer but that does not mean that they will cheat on you with them.
There is a reason why they are in an intimate relationship with you. If they wanted to date other people, they would have done so. So, the next time you feel jealous, accept the feelings, yet change the way you think about the situation and be reasonable and wise.
If you’re annoyed with your man about something, then just tell him about it. Instead of plotting in your mind, just say what’s on your mind and you can work things out faster and have more time to spend in happiness, than in misery.
And if your partner wants to tell you something, don’t walk away even if you feel like it doesn’t make sense. Remember, what seems like nonsense to you could mean a lot to your partner when he is hurt and wants your reassurance.
3. Express Your Jealousy in A Soft Way
If you feel that your partner is doing something that is making you jealous, you can express how you feel and talk to them in a mature way. You can also communicate it with humor, diplomacy or directly as long as it is respectful.
If you are humorous, you can joke about how insanely jealous you are when your partner pays attention to someone else.
Laugh with them as you say this because it will take the pressure off the topic and will get the message across. When you are diplomatic, you can let them know that you love them a lot and know that they will never cheat on you. And if you are direct, just tell them that you trust them, yet cannot control your feelings and want them to consider how you feel.
4. Pay attention
Your guy may be trying to say something to you, so pay attention. Most times, when jealousy sets in, all your lover wants you to do are pay attention to him, and show him you still care. If you want to work this out, then both of you should be ready to listen to each other and hear what each of you have to say. Try to read your partner’s actions and give him enough attention if he’s feeling alone.
5. Trust Yourself
The best thing that you can do is trust yourself. Trust yourself that you can love deeply and without any regrets. Trust yourself that your love will act as the anchor that will prevent your relationship from floating away. This is not easy, but ultimately when you trust yourself, you trust whatever comes. You feel confident that you will be able to manage even the most difficult situation, including a breakup or rejection.
6. Trust Your Partner
You must trust your partner because you have no other option if you want to have a happy and successful relationship. No one can control your partner and you have to let jealousy go. Having some control is not a bad thing, yet trying to control somebody for things over which you have no control, is problematic. Act in a loving manner in spite of feelings of jealousy you experience.
7. Give reassurance
One of the best ways to deal with jealousy in your relationship is by reassuring your partner. If you get angry with your man for getting jealous, things will only get worse.
Tell him that you’re sorry to have neglected him if you did neglect him. Or simply reassure him and let him know how much you love him and care about him. Remember, when someone gets jealous, more than anything else, they’re just afraid of losing you and they want your attention, badly.
Jealousy may be destructive and serves as a poison in intimate relationships. If you follow the above suggestions and strategies when feeling jealous, you will be in a better position to build your relationship and deepen the trust.