Rejection doesn’t feel great and sometimes it feels unfathomable but it shouldn’t be something you permit to take away happiness from your life.
At one point or another everyone gets rejected. It is a part of the journey of life. When someone you love rejects you, it feels like an ice pick has been stabbed right into your heart. The pain is unbearable, and you do not think it will ever go away.
The reality of life is that rejection will form a part of it, there will be occasions when your job application, your date request, or your ideas for change will be rejected by someone, somewhere.
Happiness is a choice, not an outcome. You can choose to be happy irrespective of external circumstances.
Research establishes that it’s not the only natural to experience severe mental agony as a result of rejection, but it’s also as “real” as physical pain
You can’t wish away the pain of rejection, but you can control when you feel rejected.
Here are 5 proven steps to do just that.
1. Do not take rejection personally
Remember that the rejection says nothing about you as a person. Getting rejected is part of life and it is not a personal attack. Even if you’ve gone on a few dates with someone, that doesn’t mean they know everything about you and are thus rejecting you as a person. They are rejecting a situation that doesn’t work for them. Respect that.
2. Accept the rejection early
The earlier you accept the rejection and attempt to move on from it, the easier a time you’re going to have. It will also mean that you won’t let rejections in the future absolutely flatten you.
3. Reduce emotional dependant
Take off focus from your partner. Use the pain of rejection to find other reasons to live. Loving your partner and being unable to function without their emotional support is not the same thing at all. Once you’ve been able to overcome your emotional needy-ness, your relationship will improve greatly.
4. Be conscious of differences
Each person in this world has a different reality. In any given situation, two people can never think or react in (exactly) the same way. No one else sees the same world as you do. Hence it’s not only possible but in fact likely, that people will behave differently from how you expect them to behave in a certain situation. This expectation-reality gap often gives rise to feelings of rejection and hurt in people. To avoid unwarranted feelings of rejection is to acknowledge this difference.
5. Your self-approval matters
Your self-love and respect for your uniqueness will outclass the negative emotions brought up by rejection. Once you’re conscious of your magnificence, rejection will lose its power. You might not feel happy about being rejected, but you will bounce back quickly.
Most importantly, you’ll continue embracing life, pursuing your truth, and focusing on the many gifts in your past, present, and future.